The Future of Education – Happy Teachers Day

Thank you to all of the Teachers around the world, who have the most difficult job and one of the most under-appreciated jobs.happy-teachers-day-wallpapers

There is so much research on education, it’s difficult to think we will ever have the right answer.  And maybe that is the answer, that there isn’t a RIGHT answer.

For one, I don’t believe there is a magic formula to achieve universal learning.  People are so different, with strengths and weaknesses, now evaluated by 24 different characteristics, with at least three different learning styles, etc.  But to know where we are going in education, we have to at least know where we are now.

Right now the education system outlines specific goals for each age group, independent of ability, socioeconomic background, support from home, etc.  We then test students on these limited goals which may evaluate knowledge more than intelligence or understanding.

I’m reading How Children Succeed… by Paul Tough.  One underlying idea, briefly mentioned, is not that the school environment is not only a place of instruction.  Rather, it’s a place for therapy, where children are improving the obstacles that prevent them from achieving their goals.  Okay, this idea is also forming from a TED Talk discussion I just listened to on the TED Radio Hour by NPR.  Specifically the talk by Rita Pierson who shows how human relationships are mechanisms for learning.  That’s why some teachers are better for students to learn from, because they are able to develop such strong relationships with the students.  Although it wasn’t discussed in depth, she gives an example of the relationships which address the child’s individual need which allows the child to achieve more in their education.  I think we all sort of knew this, and we know of many great teachers accomplishing this with their students, such as Mr. Foteah who is also a fantastic blogger.

So we go to school for therapy, to address the issues and behavioral problems that interfere with learning.  Now thinking about the future of learning…

In that same collection of TED Talks from the NPR radio show, listen to the bits by Suguta Mitra.  He did some experiments which show how children can teach themselves difficult material.  Even very poor children who have no idea what a computer is or how to speak English.  If you have heard about the Khan Academy, and if you have ever taken an online course, we can see a shift coming in the education system.  People choose what they want to learn, and how they want to learn it.  Salman Khan talks about how his online courses allow students to prep for classroom lectures in advance and teachers now use class time to help students master the skill.  This will allow students to learn at their own pace, and hopefully as the students identifies their best method of learning, they can become more efficient in the learning process.  So the teachers role as an instructor might be reduced even further.  There will be more time to deal with the “therapy work” for students, to help them stay motivated, and help them develop “character” (discussed in the book How Children Succeed).

Not that this is an easy task.  How does one person identify the specific needs of 120 students, and find positive ways to address each of those issues?   But in a way, it’s part of their task now, along with the instructive tasks.

What if education can be a “learn at your own pace” with the instructor meant to get to know you to help you identify challenges and develop methods of overcoming them.  And to help evaluate your learning achievement.  Is that the system we can expect?

Unexpected Answers

I feel constantly in search of an answer for “How to Be Happy”?  Some of the ideas I thought were answers:

  • Fake it till you make it
  • Find a deeper understanding for everything, the more we know about how behavior works the more we can control our emotions
  • Happiness is relative, so keep reminding myself of how much worse my situation could be
  • Happy people had a good childhood and they are able to carry that happiness throughout life
  • It’s all in the brain, everyone’s brain is wired differently and some people are naturally more happy or more satisfied while others struggle to achieve happiness on a regular basis.  Some of these people have such dramatic brain issues that they need drugs to avoid harmful depression.
  • Focus on the little things that bring me bits of joy, avoiding the bigger issues that limit deep and true happiness
  • Keep making changes to keep life new and exciting, without finding a way to achieve happiness without those regular changes.

OK happy face_fullAs it turns out, by trying to ignore the things that cause pain and misery, I also dulled the joys of life.  At least, that’s what I’m thinking now after watching this TED Talk by Brené Brown.

I have always been sensitive.  I cry very easily, and as a kid I hated being called a crybaby.  Now as an adult, I cry when sad, happy, angry, just about every emotion comes out in tears.  Which is hard for my boyfriend because it makes it harder for him to read my emotions.  I wish I didn’t cry so easily, and I really wish I could control it in public.

That is one of the reasons I have tried to limit my vulnerabilities.  If I am vulnerable, there is more potential for me to cry.  So I tried to cut out vulnerabilities, but that has probably had a severe effect on my relationships with friends, family, and my boyfriend.  By trying to be independent, and not rely on others, it’s been hard to form stronger bonds with people.

I would love to hear from others who think they may have similar experiences.

College Savings

If you are happy to trust financial information without second-guessing, then you will not enjoy this post.   Personally, I can’t trust anything without significant evaluation.

I recently tried to plan a way of investing in my nephews future, but I do not assume that they will all go to college.  So I want an option that does not require college enrollment to access the money.  Basically, no plan takes away the money because the kid doesn’t go to college.  However, there are fees or penalties for withdrawing money for other purposes.

Surprisingly, Roth IRA’s are listed as an option for savings.  Money used for education can be withdrawn without the typical penalties if the money is withdrawn before the minimum age.  But the child has to be old enough to have a job to enroll in this plan.   I like the fact that this plan encourages the kids to keep the money in the IRA account if they don’t use the money for college; so that the money grows even more over time.

With each savings options, there are concerns over fees, impact on financial aid for the kids, and tax issues.  I found this comparison table very helpful for making my decision.  Also, not all 529 plans are good plans.  I’m not knowledgeable enough to help you decide, but here are a few resources:

Being Better Parents

I heard this story on the radio show This American Life, and it made me think.  Most parents are trying to give their kids a “better life.”  The dad in the story is maybe an extreme version of a particular behavior that I think all people share.  The main story is a bit crazy to think about, but the underlying story between the dad and the two daughters is interesting and I think enlightening about human nature in general.

The dad had a rough childhood, and we don’t get the full story of what he went through but apparently it involved verbal and physical abuse.  For him, he knew that was not good parenting and he wanted to do better with his own children.  Although he did better than his parents, it was still not good enough to earn the respect of his two daughters and the girls have now cut off contact with him.  Surprisingly, some of the behavior he hated in his own parents, he repeated toward his own family.  It’s hard to know how conscious his re-enactment of the bad behaviors, because during the interview he denies that part of the story.

If the story is true, we can imagine how the dad developed coping mechanisms to distort reality, just to deal with the abuse he suffered as a kid.  In a way, although he knew this behavior was not normal, it was normal to him.  And therefor, the definition of being a good parent was altered to believe that being better than his parents was enough.  I believe, that in a way, his entire parenting process was an attempt to hide the difficulties of his own childhood.  However, having not dealt with his difficult childhood, he wasn’t prepared to be a supportive and non-abusive father.

The same discussion happens in the end of this Radiolab story.  The initial story is wildly unusual.  But it circles around to another difficult childhood and lifelong consequences as a person and a parent.

Teachings Knowledge or Teaching Skills

230px-Nofretete_Neues_MuseumI distinctly remember my 6t grade social studies assignment to write a research paper on Ancient Egyptian history.  We got to choose our own topic, and I was interested in the Queen Nefertiti who is now more famous than her Pharaoh husband.  Those of you who read my blog, have probably noticed that story telling is not my one of my strengths.  It doesn’t come natural, and it’s only once in a while that I think of a good story to include in my posts.  6th grade was the start of this lifelong battle with writing.  My research involved writing down quotes of important information from various sources, and combining them into the final paper.  I do not recall what preparation and training was provided for this task, but I do remember the note on my graded paper to redo the work and this time write the paper in my own words.  220px-Ankh_isis_nefertariThere is a lot I don’t remember about childhood, but this embarrassment, although not public, has seared this experience into my memory.  And although I cannot say I have mastered the skill, at least I’m conscientious not to plagiarize.

I think growing up, my view of education was that we were taught knowledge.  My view of that particular assignment at the time was that I was supposed to learn facts about Ancient Egyptian history, but now I see how the class was teaching me a skill to be used throughout the rest of my life.  Would I have performed better, had I been focused on the development of the skill rather than the accumulation of knowledge, maybe?

Each grade level and class type during K-12 education will vary in it’s focus.  Math and Science I think are more weighted on teaching knowledge with some skills learned as well, but history and social studies  have the opposite distribution.  Maybe this distinction doesn’t make a difference to students, or educators.  Maybe the educators are completely aware of this and subtly build it into their curriculum so that students have no idea.  But I think I might have learned more, if I realized the necessity of learning skills.

My boyfriend used to teach at the graduate level, thinks that higher education is more focused on the learning of knowledge.  If this were true, then we might expect it could be possible to test through an undergraduate degree.  But to my knowledge, you have to complete equivalent coursework to be eligible for a diploma.   Does this suggest we are more concerned about people learning skills?

Ways to help the World

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There are many ways to donate to the world.  Financially, or Time, depending on your schedule and preference.  As the world expands in population, and more distance is created between people, we are losing our community support systems.  I suggest you review all charities and groups in advance of supporting them.  If you're like me and you have no idea how to do this on your own, see if they have asked…

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I love this collection of ways to improve the world and our local communities.

The Fight against Bullying

Raise your hand if you have been bullied at some point in your life.  If you can read this, I expect you are raising your hand.  It doesn’t matter what age, gender, skin color, native language, etc.  It’s a natural reaction when we are not taught to behave otherwise.  Typically bullying is a reaction to stress (www.bullying.org).  And who is not stressed at some point in their life?

The number of groups and news reports about bullying gives me hope that we will soon have the tools to stop the bullying behavior.   Dateline even did an episode secretly watching kids to see if they will participate in bullying.  Ways people are stopping Bullying behavior:

What if your child is the bully?

Thanks to RaisingAwareness for your post and reminding me to complete this post.

A Relationship in Song

first-date-01First Meeting: I knew I Loved You by Savage Garden or Somethin’ Like That by Tim McGraw

First Date: Today was a Fairytale by Taylor Swift

Falling in Love:  It’s Friday, I’m in Love by The Cure or Crazy Little Thing Called Love by Queen Can’t Help Falling In Love by Elvis Presley

Proposal: Love Song by Adele

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Marriage: Wonderful Tonight by Eric Clapton or Make You Feel My Love by or Adele Little Houses by Doug Stone or Spend My Lifetime Loving You by Marc Antony

Family: My Front Porch Lookin’ In by Lonestar or One Boy, One Girl by Collin Raye

Overcoming a Big Fight: Madness by Muse

 

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Aging:  Follow you into the Dark by Death Cab for Cutie or If You Get There Before I Do by Collin Raye

What will we miss Tomorrow?

I have a favorite towel.  It’s so old, I have no idea where it came from.  It’s super long, which is great for good wrapping coverage out of the shower.  And it’s really soft, like an old pair of jeans that you have worn everywhere.  A section of the towel is worn through, and my boyfriend has repeatedly commented that it’s outlived it’s useful life.  ABSOLUTELY NOT!  It still functions perfectly for my use.  I would be in favor of replacing the towel, but a search of the product name produced no results.  So I believe the company either changed names or went out of business.  Besides, who can survive making good products anymore?

Last year I purchased an immersion blender to ease with blending soups.  When it comes to kitchen items, I rely on the testing and comments by America’s Test Kitchen, I’m actually signed up through Cooks Illustrated to access their recipes and product info.  After extensive testing, they recommended the Kaloric Sunny Morning blender.  Later that year they revised the recommendation and I had a similar bad report to other people, after maybe 5 uses on soup the motor burned out.  I should have read the instruction booklet immersion-blenderdescribing the operating instructions and promptly returned the item.  You can’t operate the blender for more than 1 minute which must be followed by 10 minutes of rest.  That would require about 30 minutes to blend my soup completely.  So back to square 1 for research.

This time I thought to read the product operation manual online before purchasing.  Many amazon shoppers report loving their KitchenAid hand blender that lasted 7 or 10 years, and the revised test kitchen report also recommends that product.  After purchasing, I’m reading some reports of complications with the new model version of this blender.  No motor problems, but the connection of the motor to the shaft has a plastic piece that can break.  I hope this one lasts, but if not, I’m writing to KitchenAid and the Test Kitchen group.  The lack of descriptive information about the motor in all KithenAid info is a bit unsettling for me; if this one breaks, it appears that all major brands use the same plastic connection element so I will be struggling to find a suitable replacement.

It seems like all manufacturers are capitalizing on their past reputation of quality products to sell really cheap goods.  I don’t mind paying extra for reliable products from manufacturer’s like KitchenAid, Pella, Anderson Windows, etc.  But as we are learning in the building design, the products are cheaply made and do not perform well long term.  This certainly helps the economy, when people warranty_nuevohave to replace products every year.  But what is it doing to the environment, and our psyche that we can’t find anything of value.  No wonder we don’t want to spend a lot of money, we can barely stomach the issue of cheap stuff failing before their time.

Product warranties have very short lifespans, 1 year and sometimes 2.  In the world of building materials, even with a warranty you typically have to hire a lawyer to get manufacturers to own up to their responsibilities, and then spend a year arguing while the manufacturer blames anyone who even looked at the product for errors.

I read a post once of someone struggling through difficulties with multiple appliances.  We all struggle to find legitimate online consumer reviews.  Who can we trust?  Know any good repairmen to recommend?

Do you Struggle with Healthy Eating Choices?

I do love junk food that I should never eat again. I won’t list names because that will make me crave them even more right now.   Mostly I blame this on the incredibly unhealthy habits learned growing up.  My parents9434393-tempted-young-woman-holding-apple-and-chocolate-cake-making-a-choice struggled financially, and we ate junk food and fast food growing up.  Although I do crave a bit of fast food once in a while, I’m disgusted by most chains to avoid it.

But it seems like no matter how much I enjoy healthy food, and learn to cook healthy recipes, I get cravings for the the junk food too.  It seems like the habits learned early in life never go away, we just try to suppress them.  And if I’m busy and preoccupied, I can’t resist the old favorites.  This article explains the issue of ego-depletion (not what it sounds like) its a natural for people to struggle with making smart eating choices when they are overloaded, stressed, or preoccupied.  So we need to prepare options for dealing with that situation in advance.

For people who think that eating healthy is expensive, that is a myth.  Recently I made a healthy and easy dinner for $3.5o, not per serving, total for 3-4 servings.  I make a stir-fry mix of vegetables and noodles (egg or flour noodles, broccoli, snow peas, carrots, zucchini, and stir-fry sauce).  I was shocked at the check-out stand when it was only $3.50.  This NPR story confirms my experience.  If you can justify $4-6 for a latte, you can buy fresh fruits and vegetables.

We do have to research what we eat.  Just the other day I read an article discussing the tricks food makers use to get us addicted to their junk food.  They add fat and sugar to low sodium products to get you hooked, and other tricks.  In a capitalist society, this is normal, and we must educate ourselves to avoid getting duped.  Not to mention all the news stories of mislabeled food lately:

Even Whole Wheat does not mean that it’s whole grain, you have to check the package listing of ingredients.  Multi-grain can also be misleading.  All (wheat) flour comes from wheat, it’ just has been stripped of the most nutritious part of the wheat kernel.  Some prepared foods use a little bit of whole grain in the ingredients, but still have more bleached flour in the recipe.  You have to look for 100% whole grain to get the most healthy version.  This is why people sometimes add wheat germ to a recipe.  Sometimes they use unbleached flour to make it look healthier, but the flour is otherwise the same as white flour.

You have to know what works for you and your body and lifestyle.  Here is an interesting article about the causes of snacking.  No one solution helps all people.  NPR just had a story about the way our natural tendency to be optimistic is counteractive to dieting needs these days.  They have a few suggestions of ways to improve eating habits.  Or trick your kids, or yourself, into eating more veggies with recipes from the Sneaky Chef.

Personally, I love Thanksgiving and all the typical foods that are unhealthy to eat together in one big meal; this meal can be 3,000 for thanksgiving-4some people.  A biologist friend recently described to me the natural cycle of the human body to put on weight in the fall, when fruits and produce is harvested, and then lose weight in the winter months when food production is more scarce.  This has likely been developed throughout centuries of evolution.  The natural cycle of weight gain likely is a root cause to having so many traditions in the fall associated with food.  I now give myself a little leniency to add a few pounds during the tasty holiday season, and in winter I kick butt working out when there are fewer events and activities happening to keep me distracted.

You can analyze your typical eating habits, and get ideas for teaching your kids how to be healthy, at My Plate.gov.  My friend uses the website to teach her 7 year old how to analyze the types of each food on her plate.

Keep in mind, organic food is not necessarily healthier, although it should have fewer pesticides, but the production of food organically is better for the environment.  But improving the way food is produced is a whole new conversation.

What is the crime level in your neighborhood?

This interactive map shows recent crime activity across the US, and shows the location of registered sex offenders.  You can filter for certain dates and types of crime too.  beatcrimeSome towns do not report to this site, so if you do not see any information about your community, that may not be interpreted as a crime free location.

boston.com also shows the homicide rates over several years.

I hope everyone stays safe tonight.

Watch Out – Stop Eating More Microwave Popcorn!

So someone ingeniously figured out how to make popcorn more dangerous and charge more money for it. And most people foolishly bought Microwave Popcorn, including myself.

There are potentially/confirmed dangerous chemicals in the butter for microwave popcorn. Half the corns doesn’t pop, or gets burned while trying to pop a decent amount in the bag. Trust me, the only thing worse than stinking up the office with popcorn smell, is stinking up the office with burned popcorn smell; which for some reason clings to my hair and clothes to remind me of the awful decision to make a quick snack. And thats all the single serving bags are good for, i can’t get a serving of edible popcorn from it. I’m not a big fan of too much butter or salt either.

Now that I have a gas stove again, I’m back to popping corn in a pot with a little bit of oil, over medium heat. Kids are fascinated by this alternative popcorn production. But I could also get an air popper and save money and my health that way too.

Equality in America and the Myth of Social Immobility

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In The New York Times’ series on inequality in America, Columbia professor and Nobel laureate Joseph Stiglitz recently argued that measurable social mobility in America is incongruent with the often ascribed “land of opportunity” label.  Stiglitz did reference data from a reputable source (The Brookings Institution) to draw his conclusions, but his interpretation of said data is perplexing.

According to Stiglitz, “only 58 percent of Americans born into the bottom fifth of income earners move out of that category, and just 6 percent born into the bottom fifth move into the top.”

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Living the American Dream... Unfortunately not everyone has equal access to achieving the dream. In some ways there is a social necessity for keeping people at the bottom. Not everyone can have the high paying jobs, and anyone who falls down the ladder will be more distraught than people who grew up in that social position. So unless everyone can move up the ladder, would it be better to keep some people at the bottom? I believe in the US we have enough money and knowledge to provide basic needs for all. And we should strive to improve upon that standard. But we absolutely need to know how to maintain that standard and avoid falling back. Winning $100 is great, but losing $100 hurts much worse.

Undoing the Benefits of Specialization

The benefit of specialization is that we can diversify tasks and achieve more as a group.  Ha!  Human nature is not so altruistic.  We are finding that when left unchecked, people will take advantage of others and not perform their duty to operate in the best interest of clients or the public at large.  The less connected we feel toward others, in our communities etc., the more likely we are to take advantage of others.  Dan Ariely has showed in simple experiments the factors that influence our likelihood to cheat.

Take Adjustable Rate mortgages:  It’s likely that in the United States, you or many people you know have a ARM.  I don’t know how much research people do before accepting this type of load, but US government has an info packet to help consumers, that is 40 pages long.  In the document, it states what you should know when considering an ARM.  “To compare two ARMs, or to compare an ARM with a fixed-rate mortgage, you need to know about indexes, margins, discounts, caps on rates and payments, negative amortization,  payment options, and recasting (recalculating) your loan.”  Who understands all of these financial matters?

Sounds like people with money are creating a complicated product (the mortgage) and hoping the general public blindly buys this product without understanding the risk or influencing factors.  That’s essentially the crux of the sub-prime loan issues.  We will never agree on who is to blame, those who create sophisticated products and sell them to people lacking the knowledge to understand the decisions, or people who make these decisions without doing enough research?

Which leads back to diversification.  In western civilization, we are not expected to be an expert on p283-1-jpgeverything.  We take our car to a mechanic, go to financial advisers to invest for retirement,  hire a contractor when repairs or changes are desired on our homes, etc.  We need enough basic information to keep these employees honest, but cannot reasonably master each of these subjects to know when these employees are not working for our best interest.

So what we need is more honesty.  How do we promote altruistic behavior?  It’s challenging to incentivise honest behavior.  Step one is to build a strong sense of community as referenced above in the studies by Dan Ariely.  I’d love to hear your thoughts and experiences on this subject.

 

Well this should not be considered the most reliable study, performed by the makers of Honest Tea.  Check out the results.s-NATIONAL-HONESTY-INDEX-large

Teaching Children by Imposing Consequences

We’ve all seen the movies and TV shows where children of the 1950′s era may steel a little candy from the store, and their parents make them return the item (if possible) or at least go back and pay for it with a hefty apology.  And we hear more stories today of parents “interfering” with their children’s lives, even when their children are legal adults.  The parents might talk to the school administrations of the university, or worse, call into their children’s employer to remedy a situation for their child.  It’s unbelievable to me that a parent would interfere to that degree.

We recently had a co-op employee, similar to an intern but this student acquires university credit for the work experience, anyway, her parents called in to the office and arranged to hang posters with her picture in the office for a birthday celebration.  I would be mortified if my parents thought of treating me that way.  Although I believe it was completely by accident and lack of awareness by my parents, their hands off approach has made me extremely independent.

So why do parents think that this kind of interference is good for the kids.  I was listening to a memoir of sorts (book on CD), Between Good and Evil by Roger L. Depue and he describes the time period in high school where he became nckvery disobedient as a kid.  This is common for kids and teenagers as they try to test boundaries, and learn to gain their independence before adulthood.  Luckily in his case, for every action, there was an imposed consequence.  After punching a kid in school a few days before graduation, his parents did negotiate for him to clean every window in the school instead of suspension which would prevent him from graduating.  And it struck me the importance for parents to show their children that there are consequences for every action.  We should be fostering the development of independence in children, so they learn how to deal with life situations.

We all see parents today try to rationalize with their kids, even as young as 2 or 3 years old when they are not of a mental development to have a rationalized conversation.  I think the conversation is good, and is important when the kids do reach that mental development.  But first the parent has to be in charge!

NPR had a good story about parents trying to deal with the outbursts of their teenagers.  Kim Abraham, a therapist in private practice in Michigan, specializes in helping teens and parents cope with anger.   I’m now adding to my reading list:  The Secrets of Happy Families, by Bruce Feiler

How To Stop the Bad Guys?

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So the Executive VP of the NRA, Wayne LaPierre thinks we can stop guy violence with guns? “The only thing that stops a bad guy with a gun is a good guy with a gun.”

First, this would not prevent killings, but it might reduce then. Of course we must consider the impact this environment would have on children, learning each day in a prison instead of a school. And how do we protect the area around the school where kids play, enter and leave the school, and get onto buses? What about libraries, parks, swimming pools, basketball courts, and shopping malls where kids play and congregate?

I know, he thinks we should build a bubble in each town and arm the 1 entrance to protect the children. Kids can leave only at night to stay with their family.

We need to address the problems because trying to control the impact of problems is an eternal game of cat and mouse.

But if we decide that armed guards will help, I’m all for taxing gun sales to cover the cost of this measure. Violence begets violence. And I would prefer to move away from violent actions and solutions.

Money, Power, & Wall Street

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Wall Street sign on Wall Street (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Just finished watching the PBS Frontline show of that title.  Granted it’s 4 hours long, but a good summary of the financial crash, bank and financial risk, the banks bailouts and the government’s role.  As an uneducated citizen in these topics, I learned a lot.  “We can absolutely reform banks… it was a political will issue and it continues to be.  And the question isn’t, are we going to create something perfect.  The question is are we going to create something better than this.  It’s actually a pretty low bar.”

Makes you wonder if we can ever trust these markets, and any job with this type of financial incentive.

So if you think you have a sure bet for gaining financial profit, make sure you understand the risk associated.

Only a Man would say Abortion is not okay, even in cases of Rape

I can’t even imagine what it’s liked to be raped. Whether by stranger or someone I know, my life would be completely changed. To be controlled and violated in such a way would change how I look at people, what I think of men, and my view of life and freedom.

Then the possibility of that rape resulting in a child… I don’t have children. I haven’t decided that I will have children one day. Even if I did have children, the birth of that child and the responsibility of raising that child is a huge responsibility. Does Todd Aiken believe the father should also be responsible for child rearing? Would they share custody, or would he be required to provide child support? This whole arrangement is unthinkable to most women.

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English: Lorraine ‘Raine’ Flores, Navy spouse, has snack time after school with her children, Gabriel, 6, and Liliana, 4 (far right), along with a neighbor’s daughter, Sydney Toliver, 6. Like many other military spouses, Flores had to make some child-rearing decisions on her own during deployments. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I’m not surprised that some religious fanatics are trying to ban abortion, even in cases of rape. That’s because these MEN do not have to carry a child for 9 months, give birth to that child, and spend the rest of their LIVES caring for that child. They can have their fun and walk away, such as military personnel fighting in Vietnam and other wars. How many children are abandoned by their fathers around the world and in the US?

We don’t consider murder to be God’s will for the death of that person. How can we consider conception during rape as God’s will? I wonder, how these same fanatics view Capital Punishment and bombing our enemies. Where does God sanction killing for these reasons?

I can’t even imagine…

  • Article from Mother Jones on custody battles over children from rape.

The Sanctity of Marriage?

It’s really difficult for me to understand why people are so hell bent on fighting against marriage equality for same sex couples.  So God told them that marriage is “between a man an woman”.  Well, what does God say about divorce?  How about pre-marital sex, and adultery.  There is a religious rule against these activities, but there is not a legal prevention in the US law.  I think people should be able to believe as they wish on this issue; and not limit the rights of others because of their own beliefs.

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I know they wouldn’t want my beliefs about them enacted into law!

Living the Dream…

Does it feel like we work our butt off, to afford a house that we don’t even get time to be home and enjoy?  We’re doing more work for the same, or less pay and benefit?  OK, yes I can be VERY cynical.  And yes, I think this all stems from unrealistic expectations.

All of the journalism groups are covering the plight of the middle class in the US, as it’s an important topic this election cycle.  People are working harder, and getting less.  Students go into major debt before they even start working, racking up students loans because it’s considered “Good Debt”.  Just like mortgages are good debt, unless you are buying a million dollar house on a salary of $20,000 a year.  I guess it’s human nature to blindly believe that we can achieve so much.  And human nature for bankers to inflate those dreams, because they can make money off of the false ideas.  I’m convinced, if you can make money off an idea, the Republicans will ensure it’s legalized and tax exempt.  For that reason I’m happy someone has decided to get them back, an atheist has offered pet insurance, he will take care of your pets after the apocalypse (but cancelled the service due to low subscriptions).

Why is our society moving in this direction?  A natural development from our desire to pay less for everything, and someone else’s ability to do our work for less money.  But those in power, i.e. the wealthy, are able to insulate themselves from this augmentation.  I just wonder how much they actually influence this natural development for the 99%.  We have to wonder why the cost of education is rising so fast, 2-3 percent more than inflation according to Ronald Ehrenberg at Cornell University.  It’s supply and demand, people want to go to the top universities, and so they can charge more.  They use those funds to improve the university, to maintain it’s status as a top university.  And people are willing to go into significant debt to get a degree from these universities, even if they cannot pay back the loan.  An article on Yahoo Finance reports the outstanding debt on student loans is at $1 trillion, and states that neither Romney or Obama’s plans for helping students will have much impact.  Because people are willing to dig in that deep, not realizing the challenge of paying for the debt after college, especially if you don’t get a job right away.

My goal is to save up in advance to buy things, and limit my debt.  It’s the same as making monthly payments, just that I make the payments before I enjoy the item of interest instead of after.  And I spend less overall.

Half the Sky Documentary – Inside view of mistreatment of women and girls worldwide

If you missed the documentary Half the Sky on the PBS show Independent Lens check the site to see if your local station will be airing it again.  Based on a book by two NYT journalists, the film documents 6 female actors/actresses in their immersion into the mistreatment of women and girls in developing countries, and the positive solutions for each problem.  Each in a different location, with extremely difficult yet uplifting stories and experiences.

  • Eva Mendes with the children in Sierra Leone

    Meg Ryan travels to Cambodia to see how young girls, as young as 3, are rescued from brothels and given new life of safety, encouragement, but most importantly Love.

  • Diane Lane travels to Somaliland to see how a local woman runs a hospital to treat women, in this country where women are considered dispensable, and sees the full effects of genital cutting.
  • Eva Mendes visits Sierra Leone to see the cultural acceptance of rape, and some of the consequences, reminding girls there how to limit a man’s power over her life experience.
  • America Ferrara sees first hand how children of prostitutes live and learn each day in India.
  • Gabrielle Union relates on a very personal to the young girls in Vietnam struggling to get an education when their families are not supportive of female advancement.  As a victim of rape herself, she used a focus on education to survive and move past the tragedy.
  • Olivia Wilde  goes to Kenya where they are trying to overcome poverty by getting more of the family finances into the women and mothers control.  “The men buy the soda, the women buy most of the milk for the children…  and buy the yogurt.”  Shop owner.

    Olivia Wilde

What is amazing in each location, is to see the individual women working tirelessly to improve the lives of other women in their countries.  “In the last half century alone, more women and girls have died as a result of gender discrimination than all the men who died in all the battles of the 20th century, and more girls were killed in any one decade than all of those who died in the genocides of last century.”  “This is not a problem that is unsolvable, that we have to invent something new.  It just takes political will.” Sheryl WuDunn, co-author of Half the Sky

In this documentary, we see individual women, many of them are past victims of these crimes, solving these problems and benefiting hundreds or thousands of women and girls.  I was amazed to see Cambodian girls, previously rescued from brothels where they were forced into prostitution and abused, now they are going into the community to teach men and women how to use condoms.

The US does have a hand in some of these repressions and abuse.  Sex Tours are sold here to visit these countries.  “What’s hard about being on the other side of the world, is that the problem seems so big.  It seams like changing one life isn’t enough, but it is.” America Ferrera  But the film and book do not give much detail on what US and Western influence has on these situations.  However, the book concludes with several ideas of how we can help further improvements, including very simple steps for people who cannot contribute much time or funding.  The easiest is simply micro-financing through programs such as Kiva which you can do online.  Nick and Sheryl are very critical of various solutions, pointing out where some programs are not as efficient as we would hope.

All of this is based on the revelations in the book Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide.  The book goes into a lot more detail, and specific stories of female abuse.

“When you educate a girl, you educate a village.” Sheryl WuDunn  It’s common for people to think we need public policy and governmental regulations to make the change.  But history shows that is not enough.  Just as the civil rights movement needed a phase of protest and social outcry for change in the US, there has to be a cultural change and change of perception to compliment the regulations.

TED Talks by Sheryl WuDunn:  Our Century’s greatest injustice

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Dinosaur Oatmeal

Thanks to my nephew, I now enjoy Dinosaur Oatmeal.  It starts out with Dinosaur eggs, then when you add hot water the eggs hatch into Dinosaurs.  GENIUS.

For great ideas on adding nutrition to this sugary breakfast, check out Cathy’s blog.

 

 

 

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Watch out for Arsenic in your Rice!

I just heard about a concern for arsenic in rice.  This is a major problem, especially given the number of food items with rice as a major ingredient.  Think about cereals and baby food which you may be giving to your children on a daily basis.

Right now there are no conclusions that the arsenic levels are directly causing specific problems, and the FDA is actively evaluating this risk and Consumer Reports have issued a warning.  My local NPR station has some tips for consumers to limit their risk:

  1. Pay Attention to where the rice is grown:  Apparently the southeastern US has more arsenic in the soil, therefor growing rice with higher arsenic levels. Jasmine and Basmati had lower levels compared to other white rices.
  2. Use more White Rice:  The processing of rice to make white rice reduces the amount of arsenic, by a bit.
  3. Cook with more Water: the extra water will keep some of the arsenic
  4. Better yet, switch to other grains like quinoa, oats, millet, or amarynth.
  5. Check foods you give to small children, especially food for babies ages 4 months to 1 year.  Also check for brown rice syrup which is used as a sweetener.

If you want to learn more about arsenic, its toxicity and how it effects the human body, read the Agency For Toxic Substance and Disease Registry public health statement here.

Boiled white rice

Boiled white rice (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Brothers

It’s Amazing what a person Can Accomplish – Hope for the next generation

It’s easy for “regular” people to feel bad for the family members of disabled kids.  Well this older brother has turned a disability into an opportunity for them to connect.

It seems like people with disabilities have something “regular” people often struggle with: to be happy, to be appreciative, and give love.  A recent discussion with friends who have disabled siblings, it seems to help kids learn empathy for other people.  I think this quality is severely lacking in our hectic, individualistic societies.   I wonder what other ways we can teach kids this trait?

There have been several stories lately giving me hope in the next generation.  Like 8 year old Wyatt donating his money for a neighbor girl to get chemo.  And Abbie who goes above and beyond to find the owner of $4,000 she found.

Maybe this trait will be a theme for their generation.

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Generational Advantage

“I see no hope for the future of our people if they are dependent on frivolous youth of today, for certainly all youth are reckless beyond words… When I was young, we were taught to be discreet and respectful of elders, but the present youth are exceedingly wise [disrespectful] and impatient of restraint” (Hesiod, 8th century BC)

Every generation worries/complains about the next.  Part of that is likely a result of the older generation having more experience and a different perspective when they view the younger group.  Maybe part of the compliant results from a natural trend toward social luxury and affluence.

But each generation has their characteristics and strengths.  We might even think that the general characteristics for each generation is influenced by the conditions during development, and so a result of our parents, whether intentional or accidental.

This graph from Wikipedia showing the birthrate in the USA per 1000 population, with the baby boomer births highlighted in red.  Although not the highest birthrate on the chart, earlier times in history experienced higher infant and child mortality rates.  So that the overall population impact was significant.  The size of the boomer generation created significant competition for that group, which greatly influenced their esperience.  The growing generation allowed for the Social Security plan based on a pyramid, where a continually increasing workforce can support the number of retirees.  They also demanded more homes, cares, good, and other goods to be produced brought which pumped up the economy.  If future generations diminish in size, and we need less stuff, that seems to have a significant drag on the economy these days.  We find the following generations face many challenges trying to achieve the same lifestyle and success as the baby boomer generations.

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Malcolm Gladwell’s book Outliers combines the work of many researchers to show how success is highly influenced by our surrounding conditions.  One example given the is the phenomenon that many hockey players have birthdays in January and February because tryouts for kids in Canada have a 1 January cutoff, so the older kids have more development and strength to make the teams.   A second example discusses comparative success of Mort Janklow compared to his father;  given that both men were self motivated, entrepreneur type people, Gladwell attributes the son’s success to social conditions of his generation (being born in NYC in the 1930 during a birthrate drop).  The son had less competition in life, and fewer setbacks that the father experienced; such as the depression and participating in WWI.  This example shows how social context greatly influences the general experience for each generation.

Today’s Gen Xers and Gen Yers are struggling through the wake of the Baby Boomers success, and struggling to meet the expectations of previous generations in the workplace.

Generation Size in the USA (varies according to dates used):

These dates ranges listed below for these generations vary according to the source you check. 

  • Silent/Traditional Generation (20 yrs) – <50,000,000
  • Baby Boomers (18 yrs) – 76,000,000
  • Generation X (16 yrs) – 88,000,000
  • Generation Y (18 yrs) – <70,000,000

Definitions:

“The Silent Generation (Traditionalists) born 1925 through 1945, is the generation that includes those who were too young to join the service during World War II. Many had fathers who served in World War I. Generally recognized as the children of the Great Depression, this event during their formative years had a profound impact on them.” -Wikipedia

Common Characteristics:

  • Loyal
  • Hardworking
  • Submissive
  • Traditional

“A baby boomer is a person who was born during the demographic Post-World War II baby boom between the years 1946 and 1964, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. The term “baby boomer” is sometimes used in a cultural context.” -Wikipedia

Common Characteristics:

  • Work-Centric
  • Independent
  • Goal-Oriented
  • Competitive

Generation X (also known as the 13th Generation and the Baby Busters) is the generation generally defined as those born after the baby boom ended, from 1965 to 1981″ -Wikipedia

Common Characteristics:

  • Individualistic
  • Tech Savvy
  • Flexible
  • Values Work/Life Balance

“Generation Y, the Millennial Generation (or Millennials), Generation Next, Net Generation, Echo Boomers, describes the generation following Generation X from probably 1981 to 1999. As there are no precise dates for when the Millennial generation starts and ends, commentators have used birth dates ranging somewhere from the mid-1970s to the early 2000s (decade).” -Wikipedia

Common Characteristics:

  • Tech Savvy
  • Family-Centric
  • Achievement Oriented
  • Team Oriented
  • Attention Craving

There are a lot of articles discussing workplace issues relating to generations X and Y, use your favorite search engine to find ones that helps you for your cooperation needs.

fresh Fruits and Vegetables: According to seasons

Farmers' Market

Farmers’ Market (Photo credit: NatalieMaynor)

Step 1: Make a list of produce according to the seasons.   Complete

Step 2:  Make a list of recipes to use for each season.   That’s going to take a while.

Find a local farmers market or family farm, this site lets you search the US.  My post on organic food, what the labels mean, including information on animal welfare.

Spring:

  • Artichokes
  • Arugula
  • Asparagus
  • Beets
  • Carrots
  • Chard and other greens (in colder regions)
  • Fava beans
  • Fennel
  • Garlic scapes/green garlic
  • Grapefruit
  • Green onions/scallions
  • Greens (in colder regions)
  • Kohlrabi
  • Lemons
  • Lettuce, Spinach
  • Spring onions
  • Parsley
  • Peas (garden, snap, snow)
  • Radishes
  • Rhubarb
  • Scallions/green onions
  • Strawberries
  • Turnips
  • Apricots (start)
  • Cherries (seasons starts some places at the end of spring)
  • Kumquats (end)
  • Leeks (end)
  • Navel oranges (end)

Summer:

  • Apricots (early summer)
  • Avocados
  • Basil
  • Beets
  • Blackberries
  • Blueberries
  • Boysenberries
  • Cantaloupes
  • Carrots
  • Chard
  • Cherries
  • Chiles, fresh
  • Corn
  • Cucumbers
  • Apples (late summer)

Autumn:

  • Eggplant (early fall)
  • Green beans (early fall)
  • Grapes (early fall)
  • Okra (early fall)
  • Peppers (early fall)
  • Shelling beans (early fall)
  • Apples
  • Artichokes (second crop), sunchokes
  • ArugulaCabbage, Lettuce
  • Beets
  • Broccoli raabe, rapini
  • Brussels sprouts
  • Carrots
  • Cauliflower
  • Celery
  • Chard, Kale
  • Cranberries
  • Edamame
  • Fennel
  • Figs
  • Garlic
  • Leeks, Onions, Scallions, Shallots
  • Limes
  • Mushrooms (wild)
  • Parsnips
  • Pears
  • Persimmons
  • Pomegranates
  • Potatoes, Sweet potatoes
  • Pumpkins
  • Radishes (all types),Turnips
  • Rutabaga
  • Winter squash

Winter:

  • Beets
  • Broccoli
  • Brussels Sprouts
  • Cabbage
  • Cardoons
  • Carrots (storage)
  • Cauliflower
  • Celeriac/celery root
  • Celery
  • Clementines
  • Escarole
  • Fennel
  • Grapefruit
  • Jerusalem artichokes/sunchokes
  • Kale
  • Kiwi
  • Kohlrabi
  • Lemons
  • Onions, Shallots (storage), Leeks
  • Oranges, Mandarins, Tangerines
  • Pommelos
  • Potatoes (storage)
  • Radishes (large varieties)
  • Sweet Potatoes
  • Winter squash
  • Kumquats (late)

Helpful Cleaning Tips

Cleaning Product Organizer

Cleaning Product Organizer (Photo credit: Hey Paul Studios)

I don’t know how many people are aware of these cleaning tips:

  • Baking Soda – Good for whitening and for deodorizing
  • Bleach – Use to kill mold on household surfaces.
  • Hydrogen Peroxide – Removes blood stains (best if the stain does not dry, and do not wash an dry), be careful because it is a bleach.  Also used as an antibacterial/disinfectant, I have used to clean cuts.  Other uses
  • Borax or granular soap – clean tea stains out of mugs, or rub on dirty shirt collars to clean, then soak in the rinse water
  • Vinegar – Low level acid and antibacterial.  Use for killing germs and smells.  Good for cleaning Stainless Steel (my test) which tolerates few cleaners.
  • Toothpaste – Good for cleaning these 24 items, which makes you wonder if it’s too abrasive for teeth.  I posted about this a while back.
  • Armpit Stains – The yellowing is caused by the aluminum in deodorant, not from sweat.  Hydrogen peroxide and baking soda mixed, rub into fabric, and let sit for 30 minutes works pretty well, just test out on colored fabrics first in a inconspicuous corner.  I have not yet tried this recommendation from Jillee: one part Dawn dishwashing liquid mixed with two parts hydrogen peroxide.  She has many other tips on her site also.

Guides to Healthier Cleaning

Stuff to do with your kids

This website has a lot of ideas for family activities.  Check it out if you live or visit:

  • NYC
  • LA
  • Boston
  • New Jersey
  • Long Island

INDOOR WINTER BOREDOM BUSTERS for Kids

  • make paper snowflakes
  • clean out the toy box
  • go camping in the livingroom
  • make a mobile out of found objects (acorns, rocks, branches)
  • write up some New Year’s Resolutions
  • create a simple Family Tree
  • play basketball with a wadded up piece of paper and a wastebasket
  • play card/board games
  • design your own game
  • make homemade play dough
  • play with play dough
  • play hide-and-seek
  • send virtual greeting cards
  • make a craft
  • choose photos for a family calendar
  • arrange photo albums
  • draw, color, paint
  • copy your favorite book illustration
  • write letters to a relative, friend or pen pal
  • write stories
  • write a play, act out a play
  • invent indoor circus acts
  • perform an indoor circus
  • brush the pet
  • read a book/magazine/newspaper
  • read a story to a younger child
  • listen to a story or book on tape
  • make up a story
  • make up a story by drawing pictures
  • cut pictures from old magazines and write a story
  • make a collage using pictures cut from old magazines
  • write newspaper articles for a pretend newspaper
  • draw a cartoon strip
  • write in your journal
  • plan an imaginary trip to the moon
  • plan an imaginary trip around the world, where would you want to go
  • write reviews of movies or plays or TV shows or concerts you see during the break from school
  • write a science-fiction story
  • find a new pen pal
  • put together a family newsletter
  • have a read-a-thon with a friend or sibling
  • make up a play using old clothes as costumes
  • play dress-up
  • play Cowboys
  • produce a talent show
  • memorize a poem and  for your family
  • make a tent/fort/teepee out of blankets
  • do a jigsaw puzzle
  • play on the Geosafari
  • do research project
  • do brain teasers (ie: crosswords, word searches, hidden pictures, mazes, etc.)
  • cook, prepare lunch, dessert, dinner
  • try a new recipe
  • have an indoor picnic
  • bake and decorate cut-out cookies
  • surprise a neighbor with a good deed, do a secret service for a neighbor
  • play store
  • make food sculptures (from pretzels, gumdrops, string licorice, raisins, cream cheese, peanuts, peanut butter, etc.) and then eat it
  • make sandwiches and cut them out with large cookie cutters
  • prepare a “restaurant” lunch with menus
  • hold a tea party
  • have a Teddy bear picnic on the floor in the livingroom
  • learn magic tricks
  • put on a magic show
  • make sock puppets, put on a puppet show
  • crochet or knit
  • make doll clothes
  • sew buttons in designs on old shirts
  • organize a dresser drawer
  • clean under the bed
  • vacuum or dust window blinds
  • write these ideas on pieces of paper and pick out one or two to do
  • practice musical instruments, perform a family concert
  • teach yourself to play musical instrument (recorder, harmonica, guitar)
  • create a symphony with bottles and pans and rubber bands
  • make up a song
  • build with blocks or Legos
  • create a design box (copper wire, string, odds-and-ends of things destined for the garbage, pom-poms, thread, yarn, etc.)
  • have a marble tournament on the livingroom carpet
  • give your pet a party
  • check out a science book and try some experiments
  • play jacks
  • play charades
  • make a map of your bedroom, house or neighborhood
  • call a friend
  • plan a treasure hunt
  • make a treasure map
  • plan a special activity for your family
  • search your house for items made in other countries and then learn about those countries from the encyclopedia or online
  • learn the flags of different countries
  • have a Spelling Bee
  • make up a game for practicing spelling
  • make paper airplanes, race them
  • learn origami
  • make friendship bracelets for your friends
  • make a wind chime out of things headed for the garbage
  • paint your face
  • braid hair

Have fun!

Should Everyone go to College?

Barnard College, 1913 (LOC)

Barnard College, 1913 (LOC) (Photo credit: The Library of Congress)

Sadly, some people blindly believe that a college degree is the recipe for success.  We hear about people who get one or more degrees that they never even use, which can be a significant problem for anyone without the financial independence to pay for it..  Even for students who will benefit from a college education, the cost of that education should be considered compared to the future salary.  Graduating with large debt can delay many life decisions and put off potential life partners.

This high demand for a college education has caused the dramatic increase in education costs, because of natural laws of economics of supply and demand.  Now there are growing problems with the expectation of going to college, for-profit colleges are abusing this assumption to make money off of hard working people, students (including some PHD’s) are still not able to find a job because of oversupply, and even regular people accumulate a debt load that takes a lifetime to repay when students do not analyze college costs to future salary.

1) not all jobs require a college education, although every person can improve their work performance with more education.  Especially for low income jobs, if everyone gets a decent education they will not be happy working these positions.  So we should identify people with the personality to perform well in these positions (such as those who would not do well in school and enjoy the low responsibility lifestyle) and provide them skills training for these types of jobs.  I believe these jobs should allow people to earn a minimum standard of living for that locale.

2) Not all people require college to achieve a good education, some people have the self motivation, curiosity, and tenacity to educate themselves.  So when Steve Jobs, and Bill Gates, and others say college is not required for success, they are right; for some people.

We should not blindly believe that a college degree is a guarantee for success, or long term financial security.  Its the right thing for many people, who carefully choose the university and the topic of study.  I believe education is the most important thing in the world, but I don’t believe that a college program is the only way to be educated, nor do I think it’s the most economical way.

I think part of the problem is that people want more, we believe we’re entitled to more, and we spend money on items that are not necessary instead of focusing on the items that provide that minimum standard of living.  How many people purchase more clothing than they actually need, expensive jewelry or forms of entertainment instead of healthy food or educational items to improve our own survival?  Because that is our standard in Western Society to enjoy a life of luxury.

Why do we Ignore what we Believe is Right?

“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.” ~Edmund Burke

There can be a lot of disagreement over what is right and wrong, it’s not my intent here to discuss what actions fall into each category.  I am curious about situations where people clearly, and knowingly, do something against what they believe to be right.  For example: Someone may think it’s a good idea to follow the speed limit, but they choose not to on occasion.  Or people who thinking that smoking is bad, but they are now addicted to smoking and have trouble quitting.  Given the current child abuse scandal, how did the adults at Penn State turn a blind eye on the horrible actions of “Jerry” Sandusky and let more children fall victim???

What really intrigues me are the situations where people do something they believe to be wrong, just because are likely to get away with it.  Again, the Sandusky situation which repeated itself because he felt protected in that environment.  What occurs in our way of thinking to make us choose the action we think is wrong?

  • Biological abnormalities aside, some people’s brains are just wired incorrectly.  The more we learn about identifying those abnormalities the better.
  • Do we believe it will help us more than hurting others, so there is a net benefit?
  • Are we operating based on a biological instinct to do anything that helps us as individuals, even if it hurts the group.  Do our actions have to be mutually exclusive?
  • Do we believe someone else is doing it, and so we are entitled to help ourselves in the same way?
  • I recently came across a scientist researching the brain and talking about why we lie, including how the brain lies to ourselves without us know.
  • I suspect it’s a combination of the biological, for each of us is susceptible to certain behavior just like some people become an alcoholic while others can drink every day and not become addicted, we all have a biological disposition to be affected by certain things.  And its laziness, it’s so easy for us to enjoy the comfort we are given (I did not fight in the revolution) and to continue to want more rather than use what we have to help everyone achieve a minimum quality of life.

If I go back to school, this is probably what I would study.

Living up to Expectations

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“You know you’ve had enough of winter when…” you make a snowman committing suicide. I get bored easily. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A few things have come together lately, from an interesting collection of sources. I’m taking an online Intro to Sociology, and our weekly readings give great insight on human behavior and some of the causes for that behavior.  Especially the movie Quiet Rage about a social experiment in the 70′s at Stanford University.  College students assume the roles of guard or prisoner and embody their roles based on perceived expectations, having not been trained for these roles.  I also read an article suggesting that stereotyping is to blame for having fewer women in the sciences.  As a female engineer, I encourage all women to think different that what this stereotype suggests.

And a few conversations with friends touch on similar points, how college life seems to be defined by what people see in movies and on TV.  What about “dying up to expectations”? I read in The New Yorker that people in Greece have been committing suicide because they are unhappy with personal effects from the austerity measures?  Japan has a history of suicide that is also influencing their 20 somethings to take their own life during this recession.  What in our brain tells us that suicide is better than tax debt, if it’s not peer pressure and influence from seeing others take that action.  Researchers have found that suicide and car accidents increase when a suicide is reported in the news.  And many sociologists are researching the unusually high rate of suicide in Micronesia.  It almost sounds like the kids think it’s a cool thing to try, and relate to the celebrity aspect of being in the news because of suicide.

People are social creatures, having most of our likes, dislikes, and preferences influenced by the society around us.

So what would happen if we collectively change our expectations for the way we interact?  That is kind of the story for success behind the program Ceasefire which quieted the inner city violence related to gangs in many US cities.

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Education Fundamentals – My Personal Truth

A variety of experiences and knowledge are combining in my world to help me understand and define my personal truth.  And it relates to our socialization and education to create positive impact on humanity.

Books - The following have helped create this understanding of how to create a positive impact on education and humanity:

  • How We Decide, by Jonah Lehr:  The explanation of how the brain naturally works, and the stories of personality changes as they relate to areas of the brain being affected by disease helps me understand the physical control of the brain in the way people think and behave.
  • All of the books by Malcolm Gladwell: give great insight into social behavior and influence.  Especially the book Outliers which analyzes successful people and how they achieved that success.
  • Don’t Shoot ….., by David M. Kennedy:  A documentary style book of the very effective programs ending violent crime in the inner cities.  The story demonstrates how both “good” and “bad” people want the same thing – no violent crime and how the social behavior is significantly influenced by the group expectations.
  • The Neighborhood Project, by David Sloan Wilson:  I will update when I finish the book, but it suggests ideas on how to improve the social welfare of impoverished neighborhoods.
  • Studies of middle-class and working-class families which show the group of learned characteristics that factor into a person’s level of success, such as those in the book Unequal Childhoods by Annette Lareau.
  • Biographies of our Founding Fathers: At the start of the United States, many scholars and experts were self taught by reading and experimenting.  Using science to understand cause and effect, action and reaction, they developed theories on farming, the weather, electricity, etc.  It’s inspiring to read how Benjamin Franklin, Thomas Jefferson and others developed knowledge about the world and society around them without a governing mandate of public policies.

Examples – I love the concept to “Lead by Example”.  There are groups developing and testing ideas for improved education and humanity.

  • Mission Hill School in Boston: Is implementing a revolutionary teaching concept which will result in students who are independent, interested and personally responsible for their education, and empathetic towards others.  Sounds like an unrealistic ideal right?  You should watch the video in the link to the Humane Connection blog.

Ideas - As Zoe Weil recently said, we all have great ideas for improvement, we just need more people acting on them.

  • I relate to a lot of what Zoe Weil says/writes in her work for Humane Education.

Personal Experience – I grew up in a lower-middle class family in the SF-bay area suburbs, went to a CA state university for my bachelor’s degree, interned with different companies every summer, then started working for a well respected company in the Boston area.  When I came to work, I “had a good education”, but knew very little.  Working beside a group who is so extremely conscientious of their actions and behaviors, and intentional of their impact on work and the world, I learned more in the first few years at work compared to the 17 years (12+5) at school.  How can that be?  What was I doing, why did I waste so much time?

I think we learn from the group around  us, trying to match up with the average knowledge of the group.  The standard of expectation is elevated, and the resources/support will also be elevated.

All Together they tell us that we can improve our society, and we’re learning just how to do that.  The most effective methods are implemented into the culture in the way we treat children.

What ideas do you have for your neighborhood?

Being Caught Up by New Things

I’m fascinated about happiness, what makes people happy and how those things lose their ability to create additional happiness. Which makes me wonder “Are we really interested in something new?” I love change, I feel very stifled if I don’t have some sort of change in my life.

Some people say that in order for them to feel content in their relationship, they have to be “growing together.” I understand that feeling, although I have not mastered how to control or feed it. But I sometimes think I’m unsatisfied if my boyfriend and I are not actively working on a common goal together.

In the past, I have been able to achieve a lot of change. Changing grades in school, and changing schools every few years. As an adult I have moved apartments nearly every year. New groups of friends, new activities, etc. but now living in the same Metropolitan area for 9 years, keeping the same job for as long, dating my bf for 3 years, facing the idea of settling down and buying a house, I wonder “How long can I go without a major change in my life?”

I love the Boston area, I dread the idea of learning everything, and everyone, over again. I like a lot of aspects about my job, and it provides a long term career goal that I’m striving for, and few other companies have the same opportunity. Life is full of change, but I thrive on the excitement of something new.

I sometimes watch the classic movies, from the 30′s and 40′s.  It’s interesting that the simple plots, with a few song and dance routines, could were entertaining to a majority of men and women. So few of my peers find them entertaining now. Our standards have changed and we need something fresh to catch our attention. We can’t regurgitate the same fancies for each generation, we have to develop new ideas, new boy bands, new TV shows.

Is the search from something new outweighing the search to develop meaning?  Are we constantly chasing something new as meaningless entertainment without truly enriching our lives?

Healthy Relationships - a spotter's guide

Reblogged from Yes:

While there’s a lot about "sex education" in schools, there’s often a distinct lack of relationships education. And yet with teenage abusive relationships becoming increasingly an issue, this is something we all need to take responsibility for talking about.

So how do you recognise when a relationship is healthy or unhealthy?

This may sound cheesy, but I think some defining questions are:

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I never had thought about the fact that we talk more about sex with teenagers and not relationships. And relationships are so complicated and difficult to navigate. Hopefully parents are having these conversations with their kids, but apparently the rise is abusive relationships among teens suggests otherwise.

Stuff to Do in NYC

I have not lived in NYC, this list is from a friend who lives there, and ideas from my own visits:

Things To Do:

- Times Sq, 34th Street (and Empire State Bldg), Central Park, Crysler Bldg, Flatiron Bldg
- Take a walk on the Highline (closes at 7pm in the winter). It used to be an elevated railway for transporting goods to/from warehouses in chelsea up to penn station where it could be delivered across the country. The shipping industry used to be huge in NYC on upon a time…

- Baumann’s Rare Books (535 Madison Avenue): have 1st editions of a lot or really rare books…some even signed by the authors!! Authors such as Albert Einstein, Issac Newtown oh and a 1st edition of Charles Darwin’s On the Origin of Species

- Big Onion Walking Tours – cheap but super informative, you learn about the history of the neighborhood, the buildings, the people, etc. I’ve been on almost 10 of their tours, and have loved them all. They have about 25 different tours and rotate through a schedule – so check out their website to see what tours are running while you are here.

- There`s lots of walking tours out there, Movie tours, Architecture tours, Historical tours…but they are pretty fun and educational!

Museums: MOMA (Modern Art), Metropolitan (artifacts, archaeological finds), Natural History (from the movie “Night at the Museum”), Museum of the City of New York (all about the history of the city), Skyscraper Museum, Transit Museum (Brooklyn), Gangster Museum, are just a few I recommend. Check out their websites if you want to see prices for entry (some have discounts on certain days or free days!).

- Check out the lobbies of the Plaza and Waldorf Astoria.
- Statue of Liberty (they recently opened up the crown so you can go all the way to the top!) and Ellis Island
- Top of the Rock Observation Deck (much better view than from atop the Empire State Building, because the ESB is in your view and you’re not looking through a fence) – check online for coupons before you arrive, usually you can get $2 off adult price
- New York Public Library & Grand Central Station – located only a few blocks away from each other, it`s free to go inside and they are absolutely beautiful buildings! The whispering gallery at Grand Central Station is also a lot fun! Physics rules!
- Shopping on Canal Street – this is where all the knock off name brand accessories (sunglasses, purses, watches, etc.) are sold. Even if you don’t want to buy anything, it’s fun to just go and see all the bargaining!
- City Hall Park, WTC, Wall Street & surrounding area – This area of Manhattan is where many of the famous skyscrapers are located, so it’s nice to walk around a little and gawk at the buildings. The streets are super narrow, it’s awesome! Check out stone street (not far from Wall St) it’s got cobble stone and cute little bars, feels like you’ve walked back into the 1800′s!
Theater (Musicals and Plays), check their websites ahead of time and see if they have rush or lottery tickets. You may be able to get them for $20-30. If you are too lazy, just go to the TKTS booth (there’s one at Times Sq, South Street Seaport, and Downtown Brooklyn). If you get there when they open, they have discounted tickets for same-day shows. They also have an iphone app you can download.

Restuarants:

  • Grimaldi’s Pizza (uses coal, which is rare these days, so you get a little of that flavor in the crust, so it’s delicious) @ 19 Old Fulton Street in Brooklyn – followed by a walk across the Brooklyn Bridge AT NIGHT (it’s one of the most amazing views and one of my all time favorite NY experiences)
  • Lombardi’s Pizza or Grimaldi’s (NY style – thin crust, minimal toppings, cooked in a super hot brick oven.
  • Chelsea Markets! (after 4:30 or 5pm on weekdays, most places there sell remaining food products at 50% off) p.s. the building that the Chelsea market is housed in was the old Nabisco factory and is where the Oreo Cookie was invented/made!
  • Definitely stick to the villages for good food that’s good value. These tend to be tiny, hole-in-the-wall places, loud, crowded, but unique menus with really tasty options.
  • Some places I recommend: Café Habana, Cafe mogador, momufuku, ippudo, pommes frites, s’mac, the meatball shop, the spotted pig, corner bistro.
  • For cupcakes, everyone tends to recommend magnolia bakery, but I don’t really like it. Instead try butter lane, babycakes, or crumbs.
  • Some other restaurants that I recommend (these are more upscale and tend to be pricey, so check out menus and such ahead of time):
    Delmonico’s or Peter Luger’s for steak (both are AMAZING)
    Morimoto’s (Asian)
    Bar Americain (Bobby Flay’s place, not as pricey as the others but delicious)
    Aquavit (scandinavian)
    Babbo (italian – pretty hard to get a dinner reservation)
    Balthazar (french)
    Craft (new american)
    Esca (italian seafood)
    Gotham bar and grill (new american)
    Morimoto (japanese – I love this place!)
    Nobu (japanese)
  • If you are willing to go a little further, check out Melba’s in Harlem and try the waffles with fried chicken. I know, I know, it sounds wierd and gross, but it’s just AMAZING! Make sure you go hungry, and check ahead if they take reservations. When I went, we had to wait an hour because it seemed that other people had reservations.

Brooklyn:

By Anne Kelly Posted in Travel Tagged