So many people struggle with finding what they want in live, and maintaining relationships. I think part of the problem is with the English Language. We have one word used for so many different types of love. There are different types, love for family, love for friends, love for a pet, I love chocolate or my favorite song. Romantic love has different characteristics than love for a friend. Love for a child is stronger than anything.
We don’t have a good way to describe love as an emotion (chemical reaction) vs. love as a decision. Do we generally use the word Love to anything that makes us happy, when it’s making us happy? I think we should all consider how we define love and understand how our loved ones may define love.
There are a variety of relationships, each based on different reasons for being a couple. The challange is to understand and communicate our desire for that long-term relationship, and then work together to accomplish the common goal. One of the best resources I have found for understanding my own view of romantic love is a book Why Did I Marry You Anyway by Barbara Bartlein. This seems to cover many of the myths about romantic Love that lead people to believe in a false love.